Are you feeling frustrated, getting angry or being abusive towards your family?

  • Do you boss your family around?
  • Do you yell, or make threats, to get what you want?
  • Does your family sometimes feel scared of you?
  • Do you hurt the people you love?
  • Do you worry you'll end up alone because of your behaviour?

This website is for men who have been violent, abusive or controlling towards family members and want to change their behaviour.

Try this Calming Exercise



When you start to feel frustrated


STOP

  • Breath slowly
  • Slowly move away from the other person
  • Roll and drop your shoulders
  • Look at something on the ground

Think Safe

  • Respect the Safety Notice or Intervention Order
  • Stay out of trouble
  • Breaking the law will make things worse

Act Safe

  • If there is anything you do not understand speak to a:
    • Police Officer
    • Court Registrar
    • Lawyer
  • Contact services that can help

Useful Tips


Under the Victorian Government's Family Violence Protection Act 2008 Family violence is:

(a) behaviour by a person towards a family member of that person if that behaviour:

  • is physically or sexually abusive; or
  • is emotionally or psychologically abusive; or
  • is economically abusive; or
  • is threatening; or
  • is coercive; or
  • in any other way controls or dominates the family member and causes that family member to feel fear for the safety or wellbeing of that family member or another person;

or

(b) behaviour by a person that causes a child to hear or witness, or otherwise be exposed to the effects of, behaviour referred to in paragraph (a).

Give yourself time for things to settle down
  • Read the conditions on your Safety Notice or Intervention Order
  • Know what you can and cannot do
  • Stick to the rules
  • If you break the rules there will be legal consequences
Children are hurt by family violence
  • Put children first
  • Children need to feel safe

Bayside

St Kilda Legal Service

Area Served: Free legal service to residents in the cities of Port Phillip, Stonnington and some parts of Bayside and Glen Eira.
Location: 161 Chapel Street, St Kilda
Phone: 9534 0777

Monash Oakleigh Legal Service

Area Served: No boundaries
Location: 60 Beddoe Ave, Clayton North
Phone: 9905 4336

PCLC Bentleigh

Area Served: Anyone who lives, works or studies in the cities of Frankston, Glen Eira, Kingston, Casey and Shires of Mornington Peninsula and Cardinia.
Location: 82 Brady Rd, Bentleigh East
Phone: 9570 8455

Victoria Legal Aid (Melbourne Office)

Legal information and referral in English and other languages.
Area Served: Inner south eastern region
Location: 350 Queen St, Melbourne
Phone: 9269 0120
Phone: 1800 677 402

Moorabbin Justice Centre (MCV)

Specialist Family Violence Service Registrar and Family Violence Respondent Worker
Location: 1140 Nepean Hwy, Highett 3190
Phone: 90908000

Peninsula

Peninsula Community Legal Centre (PCLC)

Area Served: Cities of Frankston, Kingston, Glen Eira, Casey and Shires of Mornington Peninsula and Cardinia.
PCLC Frankston (Head Office)
Location: 441 Nepean Hwy, Frankston
Phone: 9783 3600 or
Phone: 1800 064 784 (0359 area only)

PCLC Pines

Location: 28 Mahogany Ave, Frankston North
Phone: 9786 6980

PCLC Rosebud

Location: 1375 Point Nepean Road Rosebud
Phone: 59812422

Victoria Legal Aid - (Frankston Office)

Area Served: Peninsula Region
Location: Corner O'Grady Ave & Dandenong Rd, Frankston
Phone: 9784 5222

Frankston Magistrates' Court (MCV)

Specialist Family Violence Service Registrar and Family Violence Respondent Worker
Location: 15 Fletcher Rd, Frankston
Phone: 9784 5777

South East

Casey Cardinia Community Legal Centre (CCCLC)

Area served: Communities of Dandenong, Casey and Cardinia

CCCLC Dandenong (Main Office)

Location: 42 Claredale Rd, Dandenong
Phone: 9793 1993 For an appointment

CCCLC Narre Warren

Location: Suite 5, 64 Victor Crescent, Narre Warren
Phone: 9793 1993 For an appointment

CCCLC Pakenham

Location: Cnr. Princes Highway and Deveney St, Pakenham (at the offices of Cardinia Casey Community Health)
Phone: 9793 1993 For an appointment

PCLC Cranbourne

Area Served: Cities of Casey and Shire of Cardinia also- Frankston, Kingston, Glen Eira and Mornington Peninsula Shire
Location: Suite 12, 33-39 High St, Cranbourne
Phone: 9570 8455 For an appointment

Victoria Legal Aid (Dandenong Office)

Location: 1st Floor, 9-15 Pultney St Dandenong
Phone: 9767 7111

Magistrates Court Victoria Dandenong

Specialist Family Violence Service Registrar and Family Violence Respondent Worker
Location: Cnr Pultney & Foster St's Dandenong
Phone: 9767 1300

Statewide Intake for Crisis Accommodation: Opening Doors

Phone: 1800 015 188

Southern Metro Region: Launch Housing Intake

Phone: 1800 825 955

If you are allowed to contact your partner
  • Be polite
  • No swearing
  • Listen to your partner
  • Wait for your partner to finish talking
  • When you talk be calm and well-mannered
When responding to TXTs, Facebook, emails, twitter & blogs:
  • Wait before you answer
  • Take time to think
  • Write a polite, non-agressive response
  • Then wait 5 minutes
  • Read your message again before you send it
  • No hacking into your partner's Facebook account

Using smart phone or GPS tracking on your partner will violate the terms of your Safety Notice or Intervention Order.

Stay calm and don't give in to anger, you are responsible for what you do.

Alcohol and Drugs will only add to the problem and you are still responsible for any actions you take while under the influence.

Bayside: Bayside Integrated Services

Phone: 1800 229 263

Frankston/ Mornington Peninsula: FaMDAS

Phone: 1300 665 781

South Eastern Melbourne: SECADA

Phone: 1800 142 536

Statewide Intake & Assessment Service: Directline

Phone: 1800 888 236

Statewide LGBTI Intake & Assessment Service: Vic. AIDS Council ISCHS

Phone: 1800 229 263

General Information: 13 2468

Online Services Support: 13 2307

Phone Self Service: 13 6240

Need Help? Contact a Men's Behaviour Change Group


Frankston, Mornington Peninsula area
Peninsula Health Community Health
1300 665 781

Port Phillip, Glen Eira area
Inner South Community Health Service
9525 1300

For all other regions
Men's Referral Service
Telephone counselling also available.
1300 766 491

Family Violence also happens in Same Sex Relationships
If so, you can contact -
Revisioning Group & Counselling Services via Duty Worker on
(03) 9865 6700 or 1800 134 840
Or counselling@vicaids.asn.au

Dandenong, Casey and Cardinia area
Relationships Australia
5990 1900

Bayside, Kingston, Stonnington area
Family Life Sandringham
8599 5433

For services that can help
To Talk:
Men's Referral Service - 1300 766 491
MensLine - 1300 789 978
To Browse:
Mensline.org.au
Mrs.org.au